This tango is the called the expectations game. How you play it could determine just how happy you are on a day to day basis. Do people even realize how much expectations can effect their decisions and their general state of wellbeing?
Lets start by talking about the expectations one has for others. I have generally been trusting of others. I have always wanted to believe in the best in people. I have always expected to be treated out of respect from those I care about. Yet when that trust is broken and the expectations I held for them have fallen where do I go from there?
Must you automatically go in the reverse direction and assume the worst about people? I have long been wary and closed off from those I don't know, always expecting the worst. As a result my friends and relationships come few and far between. Yet I cherish the ones I do have. Those that are closest to me I open up to and give that trust so easily. And that of course is where the most pain can happen. So where is the balance?
Then there is work. When you set expectations for your work in life do you also set yourself up for failure. By all accounts I am a failure when it comes to what I wanted to achieve with my working life. The jobs I have serve as passages of time and not much else. But the fear I have of what it will feel like starting again is enough to keep moving in the same direction.
Perhaps I am expecting too much out of a job. I believe that every person has a calling and they should go towards it. Yet i have no idea what mine is. There are many things that make me happy. But figuring out what is best and what I can actually achieve is daunting if not impossible. Maybe I need to lower my expectations and assume that striving for the mythical dream job is unrealistic.
Expectations frighten me. I am a pessimist with hope if that make any sense. I believe in the worst but hold out a feeling that something more could happen. The question is, are my expectations holding me back or protecting me?
Alas, I will have low expectations for this blog; whatever form it takes. I hope I will be inspired to continue it but I am worried of my limits. Only time shall tell. All I can say is that for now this blog will not be able to rely on my crutch of pop culture. With that topic I am entirely devoted to one mistress, Pop-Pop (Culture) in the Attic.
I couldn't possibly have higher expectations for that particular blog. I am filled with immense honor and pride at its mere mention. So please take a gander. I can't guarantee that this blog will amuse the masses but that one surely will.
1 comment:
Your comments about Pop-Pop are very flattering, and it's great to have you on board!
The only advice I can give about your career path (and then again, am I one to even give advice?) is to think of a new job like buying your first house. Odds are, your job will not have *everything* you want. There will be things you like and things you don't. There will be certain areas where, realistically, you will probably settle for "not awful." The most important thing is to take that first step and build toward your ultimate goals, which you *can* achieve. It may take a little time, but you will get there.
To use a personal example, while I will not reveal what/where my job is for personal and professional privacy, I can say that I never saw myself getting into this field. However, I don't mind what I do, I love the people I work with, and I don't hate going to work everyday. (I actually feel like it's a decent way to spend my days, if I must work.) I'm also discovering that I like this field and that I would like to move up in it someday. This position is not my "dream" job, but it suits my goals for now. Plus, there are a lot of people in what seem like great jobs who hate what they do, who they work with, etc. You just have to find what you like when you go to work, and maybe you'll discover a love you never knew you had.
If you need any help with the transition, you know how to find me!
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